When I think about marriage and weddings I have to make sure that my thoughts are objective. The dating world is vicious and if you are in too long then there is the possibility that you can become jaded and cynical. So when you see other people in love, planning weddings and women showing off their engagement rings it tends to make a long term single person feel some type of way (but not all the time).
When you are in the dating cycle you sort of have to just brush off a break up and either get back in or take a time out, but you can't let your bad experiences or rather life lessons affect how you feel about the people you care about and their happiness.
My Thoughts On Marriage:
Marriage is beautiful! When you are absolutely sure that you are ready for it. But the thing that you have to keep in mind is that the "magic" of being in love won't always be there to protect you, so to speak. And when you get married that magic will fade rather fast (depending of course). You also have to remember to marry the person, not the IDEA of being a wife or husband or being a married couple in general. The bills will start to come, the plans for living a stable life will roll around and then once you know it, OOPS there pops out a couple of kids!
When you first are engaged you are excited and feel like you can take on the world, but you have to ask yourself, "Do I really know who I am marrying?" And "Am I really ready to commit to this person for life?" Do I even KNOW them? How well do I know their family? What type of background do they come from? What do they value in life? What are their passions in life? Do they believe in GOD? ect
Sometimes we rush into marriage because we are afraid that if we don't do it now, that we will never get the chance too. Sometimes we rush into marriage because we believe with all our hearts that they are "THE ONE." But the thing to remember is that PEOPLE change.
What they want RIGHT NOW, may not be what they want in about 3 to 5 years. This is a change that you can not stop. It will happen, because it is apart of the growing process.
The other thing that is scary is that the DIVORCE rate is so high.
http://marriage101.org/divorce-rates-in-america/
This could be due to any number of things, but mostly I think it is because people really don't know who they are until much later in life. They marry young, because they are in love. They believe that love can get them through anything and then they jump into the REAL WORLD together and realize that love is nice, but it "doesn't put food on the table and clothes on a childs' back." People, just aren't realistic about what they can handle.
Of course not all marriages end in divorce. I have friends that are happily married and just fine. But not everyone has a story like that. And you can't bank on your story being that way. You just have to go with your heart, pray and really think about what you want in life. You will be fine as long as you stay realistic through it all.
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