This is why it is important to get to know people before you write them off as, not "compatiable" with you. The more you learn about a person, the more you learn about their heart. It takes time to develop friendships nowadays because people are just not as trusting as they use to be. And well, with the way the world is now, they would have reason not to be.
I have made a lot of friends during my four years of college. Some that I thought were just too outrageous to be around, yet when I hung out with them I found them to be able to understand me better than those who I spoke with every single day. How does that work?
I'm partial to making friends, because there is a pattern in my life that I don't know how to break. Whenever I get close to someone, start to care about them or even love them they end up exiting my life. They don't mean to leave, but they know that they can't stay with me either. It would not be fair for either one of us, because we each have our own lives to pursue. So, all I can do is wish them the best in their journey and hope that I see them again someday.
I use to cry when I would lose a friend but then I started to get use to this pattern. I have stared death in the face. I have had friends move to a different state, country. I know better than to get attached to anyone or anything or at least now I do.
I'm very cautious about making friends as it is because I know that I have a big heart. In the past I was taken advantage of a lot and I didn't know how to put my foot down and finally say, "enough!" I was afraid of losing them, but the ironic thing was I was going to lose them anyway.
Even now, in my friendships I look for good hearted people. If I feel that someone has a good heart then I let them stick around in my life for as long as they can, but if I feel other wise I normally let them go. Sometimes you don't know if someone has a good heart or not until you actually listen to the things that they say.
I am very aware of what is going on around me and I make sure to listen more than I talk when I am in the presence of another person. If they are constantly talking about one thing, you know the color of their heart, so to speak.
I'm still baffled at how I came to be friends with some of the people that I know today. At first, glance you would think that they are insensitive, cold and uncaring. But really they have a beautiful heart. I'm glad that I didn't write them off before I was able to get to know them. They make me laugh. They help me to explore new perspectives. They help me to see the world in a different light. I wish that they could always stay in my life but I know that they have their own living to do. I'm just happy that I got the chance to know them at all in this life.
Every friendship that you enter into will be different from the next one. Some will stay in your life for a longer period than others. But each friendship is unique. And each person who invests anytime should be cherished and remembered for the lesson that they taught you or for the lesson that you were able to learn from them.
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