The Truth About Lying

People are never has honest as they claim to be on dating profiles, in interviews or even in real life. They tell you that they have "tough skin" that they can "run with the best of them." They defend honesty until the cows turn blue and gold. But only until they are placed in a situation that they did not anticipate. What happens to their defense then? It goes out the window.

A lie... is such that is not truth. The facts. But what happens when it comes to emotions and feelings. Is it a fact that you are feeling a certain way? Lets say for example love. And if you are feeling strong emotions of love, then how can you prove it? How do you prove an abstract concept?

Disappointment is never easy. People expect other people to not disappoint them. People think that other people should be noble, kinda and honest. But other people don't believe that they are obligated too.

For example, if a child skips school. Their parents find out. The child tells their parents that they went to their friends house, when they really were not there. The parents, do what most parents do best...they investigate. They find out their child lied.

Why did the child lie in the first place?

Why did they skip school in the first place?

When they lied, did they not think they would get caught?

Did they not think there would be consequences?

People lie because they are afraid to face the truth. Not the truth that is found in the reaction of the other person. But the truth that is found behind the emotions of their reaction to how the other person feels about them lying. They don't want to admit that they are less than desirable in the eyes of society, because despite what many people say. Most people really do care about what other people think about them or how other people feel about them.

You are not a bad person. You are just a liar.

I can forgive a liar, but I can't forgive a coward. A person who hides behind (silence, cruel jokes, anger, or violence) a mask because they are too afraid to face the reaction of the other person who they lied too.

I will agree that everyone lies to some degree. Whether it is, stretching the truth or flat out making up a new story. They all go under the same category. Some would say, "well, a white lie is not as bad as a full blown lie...."

I disagree.

All lies are bad. Whether they were marked with good intentions or not, because they prohibit growth. Everytime you tell a lie to someone, you stop them from continuing their journey through personal growth. Some would say, "well I was just trying to protect them!"

They don't need you to be their superman or superwoman. They need you to be their friend. If, you are always fighting their battles how will they ever learn to stand on their own? They will always seek you out whenever their is a battle. And you will always rise to fight. But what happens when you get tired?

I am in no way trying to imply that I am perfect and that I have never slipped up. No, I'm human just like everyone else. But the difference between myself and most others is that I am self-aware of everything that moves around me, whether it be emotions, nature or people.

I learned the hard way about lying. Not only did I lie to someone that I cared about. I ended up lying to myself. Only to cause more harm and misery. I blamed them for every insecurity that I had. Then I lied to myself and said that it wasn't my fault that I was insecure. THEY MADE ME THAT WAY. But NO ONE MADE ME ANY particular way. My life experiences helped to shape me into the woman I am today, but ultimately it was I, who chose to be this kind of woman.

When I nearly lost myself inside of another persons life. I knew that I could no longer stay in my "make believe" world. It was time for me to step out into the light, and pray to GOD that the brightness of reality wouldn't keep me blinded, for too long.