Soulmates

I use to be a big believer in a lot of things. I think a part of me is sad that my hopeless romantic side is not as bright as it once was. I lived in a world built around love, but that love wasn't realistic. It was something out of a final fantasy story.

Some would say that you have to be "complete" within yourself before you can find your soulmate.

Then others would say that when you meet your soulmate, they will "complete" you.

I agree with both ideas. Why? 

Lets break it down.

In life we go through struggles, sure. But how we react to the situation is very important. If, you are a person who is never happy about anything. Always complaining. Is negative the majority of the time. Then unless you find someone who has the "superman/woman" mentality, you will always be in the same spot, in the same messed up situation, crying the same tears just at a different time in your life.

The world is filled with pain, sadness and in general just messed up situations so why would you want to be with someone who lives, breathes and eats that type of energy?

In other words if you wanted to be miserable, you could be miserable on your own.

The "superman/woman" mentality gets old very quickly. The more you give. The more they take. And you need a constant supply of energy just to help them get through their day. Then, by the time they are done taking all of your positive energy. You don't have any left for yourself. And although, on one hand you feel happy that you were able to help another life, on the other, other hand you might feel angry and bitter toward that person for taking so much. In some cases too much.

The second option comes when you are living your life. Doing what you love to do. Enjoying the company of people that make you smile and laugh. Going to a job that you may not always like all the time, but one that you half-way enjoy attending. Your life is filled. And although you would like to have someone to hold you, during the stressful times. You don't make it your everyday quest to find someone to "heal" or "save you. You don't make it your mission to escape into another persons' life, just so you don't have to deal with the issues in your life.

That's when you meet someone who wants to be your friend. Someone who wants to make the conscious effort to be active in your life and be there when you need a "shoulder to cry on."

That's what people fail to realize. It doesn't take much. Just a phone call. Just a hug. Just a smile. Just a lunch date (etc) to let someone know that you care about them. There are so many ways that you can express your care and/or love for another person.

But, do I believe in soulmates?

I believe that there are many people that you can be compatiable with.

I guess, if you were one to believe in the idea that one person can make you utterly and unspeakably happy then they would be your soulmate.

I don't think that there is just one person out there who is just "meant" for you. It might seem that way at first, but how do you know? Unless you have dated the entire human population how do you KNOW that, that ONE person is meant for you? Was created just for you? You don't. That's where "faith" comes in. I guess.

For some that is all they operate on. For others it is all they can hope to use to get them through life, in general.