The boy is a male that you would find in an undergraduate program. He has no direction and or no idea what he wants to do with his life. He would be the freshman that comes straight out of high school. He would be the male that wants to party, drink, smoke weed get chased by cops and have sex with random girls because he feels entitled.
The guy is the middle ground to a male. This is the male that has somewhat of an idea of what he wants to do with his life. He is starting to think about long term plans from himself. This is the stage where the male is starting to get his priorities straight. He dates, but is not looking for anything serious and or long term until he gets his life together. He is moderately confident in himself but wants to improve.
The Man is the final stage of a male. This is where the male is confident. He is honest with himself and other people about how he feels. He is fully focused on accomplishing his goals. He is a leader. He may continue to date, but now he dates long term with the hope that he will eventually meet a woman to settled down with. He recognizes a real woman when he sees one. And he is not afraid to be himself around other people. He works hard and is humble. He is more than half way living with established priorities.
The Date (October 5 2011)
It has been awhile since I have been on a date. A real date where the man opens the door. Where the man pulls out my chair. Where the man pays for the meal. It was a really nice experience. And now that I had that experience I can never go back to anything less than being treated like a lady.
He took me to a chinese restaurant, and anyone that knows me knows that I really enjoy that type of food. I enjoy it so much that I ask my grandmother to make "fried rice" whenever I get a chance to go home and get a real dinner.
We met at the library and then we drove to the restaurant. He opened all the doors. It was a very quaint spot. I had not noticed it before. The woman that served us was very nice. When I got there I could not make up my mind as to what I wanted. I felt bad for being so indecisive. I was pretty excited and hungry at the same time. So, I couldn't think. But the lady was patient. We both ordered sweet tea. And then we talked. The lady took our order. And by the time the other half of our conversation was complete our food was ready. We ate, pausing every now and then to laugh or make a comment. Then we finished the dinner. Paid and left.
The date wasn't anything mind-blowing. It was simple. It was relaxing. It all flowed together. I didn't feel stressed. I didn't feel pressured to be someone else. What I remember most is that I laughed. A lot. I rarely laugh at anything, especially nowadays. It is not that I don't find life to be lovely. It is not that I don't find anything funny in life, but my thought process is different now that I am about to graduate. I have to think about what is the next step for me. I have to make sure that when I graduate from here I have a plan that will work and a back up plan just in case the first one does not work out.
Anyway, it was just nice to be out with someone that I could talk to. I could laugh as loud as I wanted. I spoke my mind. I was comfortable in my own skin for the first time in a long time. And I just wasn't comfortable for a few minutes but for the entire day that we hung out.
So, I look forward to more relaxing times.
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